Alter Ego

Have you ever looked back a situation and thought to yourself, what if? What if I would have said this & that instead of walking away? What if I walked up to that person at the end of the bar & introduced myself? What if I said yes instead of no?

"What if?"

Every one has asked themselves what if, probably over a thousand times. But what 9 out of 10 people don't realize, is that they had every opportunity to make that "What if?" into a "Why the fuck not!" Majority of people are too scared to realize that they can speak exactly what's on their mind. Maybe they're scared of rejection, maybe their scared of a negative outcome... but mostly people are just scared in general. People think to themselves "I would never say or do that." but hellllooooo you're obviously thinking about it, so why not just say/do whatever is on your mind! Life is too short to live with what if's and regrets. Trust me, you're going to regret everything you DIDN'T do more than something you did.

So here's some advice for you, that I'm passing along from a good friend at work... Create an alter ego for yourself. Make your alter ego into someone that's bold, daring & isn't scared to express themselves. Hell, even give your alter ego a name. For example, Jen might be too scared to straight up ask Aaron why he stopped talking to her all of a sudden, after having such a great time hanging out with each other the past 2 weeks... but Jasmine will cut straight to the point & ask Aaron "what the hell is going on?" Jen might not want to show vulnerability & open up an area of her heart that will most likely be crushed again... but Jasmine needs to know if she's wasting her time. Jen might be too scared to show interest in Aaron when all signs point to Aaron not being interested in her anymore... but Jasmine doesn't care about the signs, she deserves to know if this guy likes her so she's going to ask him to hang out again. Jen might play on team safe where the game goes into never ending innings... but Jasmine gives her players 3 strikes & moves on to the next game.

Your alter ego can come out whenever you want them to. There's no rules or a list of do's & don'ts. You can even blame things on your alter ego. "Sorry Abi, Jasmine wanted that 5th shot of Jamison last night, not Jen." or "Jasmine didn't want to sleep alone last night so she spent the night with her ex boyfriend, don't worry, Jen is going to lecture her later." Every one needs an alter ego. So whether you use your alter ego to blame your mistakes on something or to say whats on your mind... at least your one step closer to living your life with less regrets than you were yesterday.